Let Your Kids Help in the Kitchen! Here’s How:

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My friend Sue Gregg shares my passion for giving kids the chance to learn through everyday, real-life activities. In her cookbook, Lunches & Snacks, with Lessons for Children, Sue says,

“Children want to start helping in the kitchen at a very young age. . . . Take the time to teach your children what they can and want to learn at each age. This will pay great time dividends for you as they gain these skills and can perform them independently. Don’t be a supermom who does it all; be a smart mom who liberally engages the assistance of well-trained children.”

In my own family’s chore rotation, one child was designated as assistant cook for two months at a time, shadowing me in the kitchen to (a) learn cooking skills and (b) spend some one-on-one time with mom. I know it can be difficult to get dinner on the table with little helpers at every meal, but we can be purposeful to include them as little apprentices periodically, even if not three times a day.

What Can They Do?

Sue stresses that what your 4- or 5-year-old can do will depend on what he learned at ages 2 and 3; skills build on previous experience, so give them the opportunity to get started early. In Sue’s Lunches & Snacks cookbook, she shares some realistic, age-appropriate, developmentally appropriate expectations (provided below with permission):

Two-year-olds can:


Two-year-olds can mix with a spoon.

• Experience taste, texture, and shape differences in foods while sitting at the table.

• Dip foods such as finger vegetables into a dip, or fish or chicken pieces into a crumb mixture.

• Put selected utensils and bowls in sink of soapy water.

• Scrub fresh vegetables with a vegetable brush (for example, potatoes).

• Tear, snap, or break fresh vegetables (such as green beans).

• Mix items such as salads or gelatin with a spoon.

• Cut with a table knife, such as slicing a banana.

• Spread with a table knife, such as peanut butter on crackers.

• Roll foods with both hands, such as meat balls.

• Peel with fingers (for example, bananas or hard-cooked eggs).

• Crack raw eggs (be prepared to pick out a bit of shell!).

Three-year-olds can:

• Do all of the above.

• Juice with a non-electric citrus juicer.

• Beat with an egg beater.

• Put napkins or single items on the table.

• Help clear the table.

• Wipe off the table (don’t require perfection!).

• Make table centerpieces (in his/her own way).

• Learn the names of different fruits and vegetables.

Four- and five-year-olds can:


Older children can be a great help in the kitchen.

• Do all of the above.

• Grate or shred with a hand grater.

• Peel with a vegetable peeler.

• Slice with sharp knives (under close supervision).

• Help with most recipes and food preparation.

• Fill a lunch bag with pre-made sandwiches and other items.

• Set the table by himself.

Wash and rinse unbreakable dishes and load the dishwasher.

• Identify various grains, beans, and breads.

• Learn that a food cooked or raw is the same food in a different form.

I really like these lists and I’ve found that older elementary children can learn basic cooking skills through using most basic recipes. My own children learned from our classic Betty Crocker and Better Homes & Garden’s cookbooks, as well as our Sue Gregg cookbook series (and more Hershey cookbooks than I should admit!). Later, they relied upon a compilation of our family’s favorite recipe adaptations in Everyday Cooking, which includes the “Basic Cooking Skills Checklist” that earned them their home economics credit and provided the foundation for their culinary experience.

Family Meal Preparation Builds More Than Strong Bodies

Not only can meal preparation time result in fun, delicious healthy meals to build stronger bodies, but it can also become positive family time, building stronger relationships and stronger independent living skills.

What are some of your family’s favorite recipes to prepare together with little ones or to set your older kids free to create on their own? I’d love to hear about them below!

Resources for Kids in the Kitchen:

Lunches and Snacks, with Lessons for Children by Sue Gregg

Family Favorites from the Homeschool Kitchen compiled by HSLDA/The Homeschool Foundation

Everyday Cooking by Vicki Bentley

Eating Better cookbook series from Sue Gregg (More than a cookbook series—this is a cooking and nutrition curriculum in spiral binding!)

Streamlining Mealtime for the Homeschool Family by Sarah Avila, Holy Spirit-Led Homeschooling

Getting Dinner on the Table . . . The SAME Day You Homeschool by Vicki Bentley (e-book)

Eat Your Way Across the U.S.A. by Loree Pettit

Kids Cook Real Food by Katie Kimball (These fun streaming e-courses equip your kids with kitchen skills and the ability to prepare a wide variety of recipes.)

Eat Your Way Around the World by Jamie Aramini

Cooking with Kids Pinterest page

Cooking with Kids from PBS Kids

Raddish Kids – a cooking club for kids! They learn basic skills, help prepare several themed dishes from each kit. Includes tool-of-the-month instruction card, recipes, and badge for mastering the month’s skill (you provide the food). May be used for multiple children (add-ons available).

—Vicki Bentley

[NOTE: This post is adapted from HSLDA’s September 2013 Toddlers to Tweens newsletter by Vicki Bentley.]

Photo Credit:First Graphic Design by Anna Soltis. Other pictures courtesy of Rebekah McBride.

6 thoughts on “Let Your Kids Help in the Kitchen! Here’s How:

  1. I used “Eat Your Way Around the World” with my 5th grader two years ago, and we’re going to use “Eat Your Way Across the US” this coming year. I can’t wait – the World one was really good!


  2. I would have to say from my experience with my kids and others, that they would have to be really advanced as 2-3 year-olds to be able to accomplish the list above given under those age brackets! WOW! I would have moved that list to the 4-5 year-olds and on up, etc. Maybe a lazy mama who has to have her kids do all those things!


    • That depends on what you mean by “accomplish.” If you’re understanding the lists above to be skills they can *master* at that age, then definitely — they’re too advanced. But I believe they’re intended to be “stuff the kids can do” when they want to “help” in the kitchen at that age.

      My current 4yo, for instance, still makes a disastrous mess when spreading peanut butter on bread; spreading still isn’t a skill he’s mastered. But I have photographic proof that he’s been *doing* it since he was 2. (As in, “Look, Mom, I made peanut butter toast.” haha)

      Of course kids will vary some based on their individual motor skills, etc. but I would agree that most of these have been realistic for my own 4 children. Whether or not I want them to “help” with non-mastery tasks on any given occasion depends on how much mess I have tolerance for that day!


    • I’d guess that Sue meant that it’s not unreasonable that the typical little one “can” do those things, developmentally — but we aren’t advocating that you assign him that task as a required chore. 🙂 Our aim was simply to encourage folks to include their littles in the process sometimes, to help develop skills and relationships. Of course, as a parent, you know your child best and can gauge when he’s ready to help you with various tasks — sometimes they just surprise us with what they are able to do. (That little boy stirring the batter in that photo? We have video of him “instructing” other kids how to peel and slice bananas for smoothies when he was barely three! What a hoot!)


  3. My daughter and I enjoys working together at the kitchen. She loves being in the kitchen with me especially when it comes to baking. Baking biscuits for my husband’s breakfast to go – all I have to do is put the biscuits dough into the oven. For me, it’s not just about teaching her how to cook, it’s a bonding and it’s makes me happy watching her how much she enjoys baking with or doing the prep. My daughter is 2 years old.

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